Stages in a Relationship

I was watching a video by WongFu Productions, watch the trailer here: Strangers, Again.

The video is about a couple who are at the end of their relationship, the guy (Josh) looks back over their time together and identifies each stage of the relationship they shift into.

The stages are as follows:

Stage One: Meeting

Starting off as strangers.

Stage Two: The Chase

Getting to know each other.

Stage Three: The Honeymoon

Always wanting to be with each other...

Stage Four: Comfortable

Truely being yourself with your partner, but at this stage, you can either:

* Continue to work at your relationship and grow it together
* Allow it to create distance.

Stage Five: Tolerance

Starting to see the other person differently (badly) and arguing. The relationship "isn't bad, but it isn't good".

Stage Six: Downhill

When trying to make things work out , don't.

Stage Seven: Breaking Up

The end of the line and you go back to where you start - as strangers.


I've only heard of a "honeymoon" period in a relationship but as I was talking to with Mr A. one time - I would try hard not to let that "stage" end. I guess when you don't really make time for each other or even cherish each other as you once used to... Things can start going downhill.

So, look after each other and try not to take each other for granted!!

Love,

Top 5 Things...

About Being In A Relationship

5. Learning new things

Through getting to know somebody closely, you also start to pick up on what their hobbies and interests are too. Not only can you have more things to talk about with each other, but it also helps you become more aware of affairs and events you didn't really pay attention to before - Now you can have a new reason to!

4. Having someone to do things with all the time

Everyday things, like just watching TV, cooking dinner or just lazying around all day this somehow becomes 10x as fun with your boyfriend/girlfriend there to be with you!

3. Being able to live out your romantic dreams

Remember when you were younger and you would imagine lots of romantic scenarios in your head, things like: receiving/giving cute little gifts to each other ("just because...") , running in the rain together, having your boyfriend carry your books to the library and so on ... Well guess what? Now you can attach a face to that mysterious guy you always dreamed of!! (Or in my case, just replace Kim Hyun Joong's face (don't worry - Running joke).

2. Feeling comfortable around them

Well, there can be some limits to exactly *how* comfortable you get with your boyfriend or girlfriend... But being around them and having no fear to be entirely yourself, without being judged or criticised is always a good thing.

1. The affections you have for them when you fall for them

How you want to spend every spare moment you have together, the way your heart skips a beat when you find a text from them, the feelings of warmth and closeness when you get a really big hug and not to mention the cuddling, oh the cuddling! And having someone to be there for you and care for you (you doing the same for them too!).

So what do you think? Am I missing anything from the list? Is there something I could add?

Love,

How To...

know if you are falling in love.

Imagine this: You've been seeing somebody for a while now, you spend most of your day thinking of them and you always want to be by their side.

Can you even recognise yourself any more?

The butterflies, the smiles, the instant dose of insane happiness you get whenever you see them.

What is this?

You know, but you're just too afraid to say it - to even think it.

But how do you know?

There are so many questions: What if you are confusing this for something else? What if you're wrong about how you feel? What if you're rushing into something you're not even sure of? Can you even be wrong about this sort of thing?

...Maybe not.

Maybe you're in love.

If you feel like the world has become more beautiful and brighter, that you like everything about the other person and even their faults, that you're even starting to feel the same emotions, so that when they're upset, you are too. That when they're happy, so are you. When somebody hurts them... you want to wing-tsun that other person's butt to Shanghai.

Anyway... You'll just know.

What do you gain by holding back anyway? Try not to be afraid, it's just a risk you'll have to take. Love is a risk that makes life worthwhile.

So, if it feels right to you, go for it! Say it, act it out, write it down, express it however you'd like to.

...

And hope they say it back.

Love,

[Here's not what not to do if you're unsure whether you're in love or not though - take a quiz (not speaking from previous experience... but dang. 5 minutes of my life)]

My research - Please don't laugh.

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