Cheating.

This one line from the movie 'Closer' pretty much sums it up for me:

"There's always a moment, "I can do this, I can give in to this, or I can resist it." And I don't know when your moment was, but I bet you there was one."

Is it worth it throw your relationship away?

I was also reading this blog on cheating: *click here* and the summary kinda goes like this: not cheating is a whole lot easier than cheating! With cheating, comes all the guilt, lying and sneaking around. Save yourself the hassle and do the honourable thing before hooking up with another person.

To sum up this post, you will most likely meet many people along your path of life, some you will get on with much better than others. Look out for that moment, there will probably come a time that you may get tempted...

Just try to make the right decision and do the right thing if you want to embark on another adventure with somebody else... 

Disclaimer: Not trying to sound lecture-y or patronising. Just stating my opinions. 

How To...

Deal with Jealousy

I can't deny it, I must admit that I'm a pretty jealous person.

It doesn't help anything!!

I hate being jealous, I can't stand feeling this way.

So how do you fight jealousy? (I google things.)

I read a post I thought was pretty useful, let me share:

1. If your boyfriend (or girlfriend) is going to cheat on you, then s/he is going to cheat on you, and there will be nothing you can do, short of locking him or her in an inescapable cell; likewise, if your boyfriend (or girlfriend) is not someone who would cheat on you, then he or she is not going to cheat on you. The decision to cheat is his/her own to make, and you ultimately have no control over his or her actions.

2. Therefore, all you can do is be best person you can be, and when in doubt, remind yourself that s/he has chosen to be with you for a reason. Jealousy will only weaken those reasons. If s/he wasn’t going to cheat on you in the first place, jealousy’s only going push him or her away, and if he or she was going to cheat on you, jealousy’s only going to hasten the process and lessen his or her sense of personal responsibility.

It helped a little.

But I still need to work on this. I guess you just have to accept that you can't really control what happens, you just have to let go and trust... Which is easier said than done.

But if it's not meant to be, then so be it.

Credits: http://www.lovelyish.com/736555381/the-thought-that-cured-me-of-jealousy-forever/

Stages in a Relationship

I was watching a video by WongFu Productions, watch the trailer here: Strangers, Again.

The video is about a couple who are at the end of their relationship, the guy (Josh) looks back over their time together and identifies each stage of the relationship they shift into.

The stages are as follows:

Stage One: Meeting

Starting off as strangers.

Stage Two: The Chase

Getting to know each other.

Stage Three: The Honeymoon

Always wanting to be with each other...

Stage Four: Comfortable

Truely being yourself with your partner, but at this stage, you can either:

* Continue to work at your relationship and grow it together
* Allow it to create distance.

Stage Five: Tolerance

Starting to see the other person differently (badly) and arguing. The relationship "isn't bad, but it isn't good".

Stage Six: Downhill

When trying to make things work out , don't.

Stage Seven: Breaking Up

The end of the line and you go back to where you start - as strangers.


I've only heard of a "honeymoon" period in a relationship but as I was talking to with Mr A. one time - I would try hard not to let that "stage" end. I guess when you don't really make time for each other or even cherish each other as you once used to... Things can start going downhill.

So, look after each other and try not to take each other for granted!!

Love,