Top 5 Things...

About Being In A Relationship

5. Learning new things

Through getting to know somebody closely, you also start to pick up on what their hobbies and interests are too. Not only can you have more things to talk about with each other, but it also helps you become more aware of affairs and events you didn't really pay attention to before - Now you can have a new reason to!

4. Having someone to do things with all the time

Everyday things, like just watching TV, cooking dinner or just lazying around all day this somehow becomes 10x as fun with your boyfriend/girlfriend there to be with you!

3. Being able to live out your romantic dreams

Remember when you were younger and you would imagine lots of romantic scenarios in your head, things like: receiving/giving cute little gifts to each other ("just because...") , running in the rain together, having your boyfriend carry your books to the library and so on ... Well guess what? Now you can attach a face to that mysterious guy you always dreamed of!! (Or in my case, just replace Kim Hyun Joong's face (don't worry - Running joke).

2. Feeling comfortable around them

Well, there can be some limits to exactly *how* comfortable you get with your boyfriend or girlfriend... But being around them and having no fear to be entirely yourself, without being judged or criticised is always a good thing.

1. The affections you have for them when you fall for them

How you want to spend every spare moment you have together, the way your heart skips a beat when you find a text from them, the feelings of warmth and closeness when you get a really big hug and not to mention the cuddling, oh the cuddling! And having someone to be there for you and care for you (you doing the same for them too!).

So what do you think? Am I missing anything from the list? Is there something I could add?

Love,

How To...

know if you are falling in love.

Imagine this: You've been seeing somebody for a while now, you spend most of your day thinking of them and you always want to be by their side.

Can you even recognise yourself any more?

The butterflies, the smiles, the instant dose of insane happiness you get whenever you see them.

What is this?

You know, but you're just too afraid to say it - to even think it.

But how do you know?

There are so many questions: What if you are confusing this for something else? What if you're wrong about how you feel? What if you're rushing into something you're not even sure of? Can you even be wrong about this sort of thing?

...Maybe not.

Maybe you're in love.

If you feel like the world has become more beautiful and brighter, that you like everything about the other person and even their faults, that you're even starting to feel the same emotions, so that when they're upset, you are too. That when they're happy, so are you. When somebody hurts them... you want to wing-tsun that other person's butt to Shanghai.

Anyway... You'll just know.

What do you gain by holding back anyway? Try not to be afraid, it's just a risk you'll have to take. Love is a risk that makes life worthwhile.

So, if it feels right to you, go for it! Say it, act it out, write it down, express it however you'd like to.

...

And hope they say it back.

Love,

[Here's not what not to do if you're unsure whether you're in love or not though - take a quiz (not speaking from previous experience... but dang. 5 minutes of my life)]

My research - Please don't laugh.

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"Someone to Be"

Found an amazingly sweet story and would just love to share it with everybody out there:

"Bill was retired as of this past April, and his wife has been retired since last year. When they were married over 30 years ago, they spoke of a trip that would take them around the perimeter of the country to all the cities of romance, the kind they saw in movies. His wife had made a list during their engagement of places she longed to see-- Los Angeles, San Francisco, Atlanta, Philadelphia, and New York. They spoke together of the things they would do there, the pictures they would take, the kinds of restaurants they would eat at, the places they would explore. They would drive place to place and really soak in the country, because that's the right way, they figured.

Bill promised his wife that someday, no matter what, the trip would happen. He even signed her a contract that they would take the trip before they were seventy, because in those days, he explained, when you were 70 you were as good as dead. Now, of course, a trip that takes this kind of time, money and planning was not going to come easily. In fact, Bill swears up and down that his wife completely forgot about the trip until his retirement day, when he came home and presented her with something: the contract.

Pulling it out of his wallet, he showed me the now frail paper to which he had signed his pledge to his love so many years ago. And now, standing proudly in front of me, he was doing it, taking her to all the places she'd seen in movies and loved and dreamed of going. More than proud, he was in love, so in love that he couldn't help but look over at her again and again as he shared his story, almost amazed as I was that it was real.

I don't know what to feel about marriage some of the time. Few people seem to take it seriously, and I'm convinced that most people want a wedding more than they really want a life together. But when I see Bill, I see someone who took his vows seriously, not because they were still married and plugging through, but because he loved her-- fully and truly-- from the moment he promised to, and cherished the conversations they had and the dreams they shared throughout their lives together. The love part of those vows that people so undervalue, that's the only part that really seems to matter anyway. It's the only thing worth having, because when it is experienced fully, honoring and being faithful to and staying with someone through good and bad times is not work, but a natural movement.

These are the kind of people to envy. They value the things that are most important-- personal relationships.

As they walked out of the store and I told them to have a good time, Bill turned back to me and said, "You know, hun, I'm 68 years old, and on this trip, I'm feeling 28 again. I guess a good woman and a good trip is all you need."

Read the whole article here

Love,