A Story...

A boy and a girl were playing together. The boy had a collection of marbles. The girl had some sweets with her.
The boy told the girl that he will give her all his marbles in exchange for her sweets. The girl agreed. The boy kept the biggest and the most beautiful marble aside and gave the rest to the girl. The girl gave him all her sweets as she had promised.
That night, the girl slept peacefully. But the boy couldn’t sleep as he kept wondering if the girl had hidden some sweets from him the way he had hidden his best marble.

Moral of the story:
If you don’t give your hundred percent in a relationship, you’ll always keep doubting if the other person has given his/her hundred percent...This is applicable for any relationship like love, employer-employee relationship etc., Give your hundred percent to everything you do and sleep peacefully.

Easy to say, hard to do! - What do you think?
Love,

How To...

Live Again (after a break-up).

So things didn't turn out the way you were hoping.
That person wasn't who you thought they were.
You've broken up and now feel lonely, lost (and betrayed).
And although it feels as if you are completely and utterly alone, isolated in all your heart break and hurt... If it helps, you aren't the only one. 

Let's go through this together.

Introducing "the Five Stages of Loss and Grief" by Kubler-Ross. Although it was originally intended to be used towards the subject of death/dying, it can be applied to almost any situation. 

In this case we will use it to heal ourselves after a break up.

Now follow me on this, these thoughts may have run through your head at some point;

1). Denial: "There's no possible effin way that happened... Did it? Maybe I'm imagining it..."

2). Anger: "I'm gonna kill that mo-fo a**hole!!" 

3). Bargaining: "Maybe if I change then..."
 

4). Depression: "My life is over. What's the point of living without love...?"

5). Acceptance: "Ok... Dodged a bullet there, it's time to get out of this funk". 

I think it's important to note that there is no particular time line specified for each stage. Some may spend longer dwelling over one point, than other people and that's perfectly OK. We all need time to heal. However, I advise that you surround yourself with people who actually do love and care about you to help you move on. 

Taking into account that this was meant to help counsel those left behind by their loved ones... I found this tagline that came along with it:

"Because Love never dies."

So don't give up! Let love live on! 

Love, 

How To...

Know When It's All Over.

Sometimes, it's the people who you love the most, who can cause you the most damage and hurt. 
- Why?
Because you gave your heart to them and trusted them not to break it... But it can happen. Whether they intentionally crushed it, slowly and painfully or, they've dropped your heart so quickly, so that it shatters everywhere...

It just doesn't feel the same anymore and you're left holding the pieces of your broken heart.

But how do you know when it's time to move on, or hold on?

 
Move On

If they show you or tell you that they no longer love you.
-Isn't that obvious? Time to go. You can't force someone to love you.

If you both don't have the same goals anymore and neither of you want to compromise.
-What's the future for you both? Would you be happy to stay in that same situation? What's important to you?

If they no longer respect you, e.g. they've cheated or treated you horribly, etc
-Just get out of it. You deserve better.

If you can't forgive them
-Maybe they've done something that you can never let go of, or they've commited one of the ultimate deal breakers.

Holding on.

You both want to make it work
-You both agree to forgive and forget and to put effort into restoring the relationship.

 You're both still in love with each other
-Utterly so, that you couldn't imagine being with anyone else and you both don't want to be with anyone else.

Possibly, if you have had children together (I don't have experience with this).
-But you could consider a trial separation before going through with anything too drastic. At the same time, it might be selfish, but consider how you and your feelings would be affected, if you stayed together.

I conclude with this quote: 
"Not everyone is meant to be in your future. Some people are just passing through to teach you a lesson in life."

In which case, I have been schooled! 

Love,